The wise woman reminds Joab that people used to ask for advice at Abel before attacking, hinting at a tradition of peaceful negotiation. The Hebrew phrase sha'al b'techilah means to "inquire first"—to seek guidance or a solution before choosing violence. This verse pushes back on the modern assumption that conflict is the only way to solve problems, or that negotiation is a sign of weakness. In ancient times, even in the middle of war, there were customs for seeking wisdom and avoiding unnecessary destruction. If you’re facing a situation where things feel like they’re spiraling out of control, this is a call to pause and ask: is there another way? Sometimes, the oldest wisdom is the most needed—talk before you fight, seek understanding before you act.